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My wife is divorcing me after 21 years of marriage. We have had close shaves several times in the past, and we are finally divorcing. I didn't want to get divorced. We're still living together with our 16-year-old daughter, while we work through our finances. I'm experiencing the usual feelings of rejection and struggle to see how I can move on to acceptance while we're together in the home. My wife however appears to have moved on to acceptance as she divorced me.

We're still fond of one another and we still do things and say things as though we're still together. She calls me darling; she wears clothing that she wouldn't wear in front of another man. for her, I guess, that's ok because she has moved on, but for me it's a constant and head bending reminder of what I'm hanging on to emotionally even though my head accepts the divorce is happening. What to do?

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Hi @pg101,

This sounds like a really tough situation. It's understandable that you're struggling with your emotions even though you understand the divorce is happening. Your wife's behaviour, while likely unintentional, is making it even harder for you to process things.

What are your longer term plans, are you both planning to sell the house or will one of you remain in the house and the other move out ?  It's very difficult to move on whilst you're both still living together.  It's good that you are still being friendly with each other, hopefully the atmosphere is ok for your daughter.

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